It's ok to be single. *repeat* It's ok to be single. *repeat till jaw muscles cramp* I think it's perfectly fine to be single afterall. When one is single, one keeps looking out to get into a relationship. But when one is attached, then one wonders how to get out of the relationship. Isn't this grass-is-greener-on-the-other-side syndrome is just so terrible?
Nowadays, women are so empowered that they realised that their value needn’t be defined by marriage. And every women I know whom is above 30 and is still single are living a fine life. I don't see them worrying about marriage although they might below that very confident mask. The only thing which I think it's a pity is that we maybe successful in our careers and social life yet we can't find success in a relationship.
I do know why I got myself into singlehood. There's a point of time when I think to myself and asked myself whether I would love to do things I want to do or doing things that I feel the other partner would accept. In the end, I took the liberty to venture into the unknown. I believe getting attached is like an enemy to individuality. The day that one gets together is the day both of them need to learn to compromise and understand each other. It's not an easy process but it's definitely a long one!
And I wouldn't say being single is all fun. There are times when you feel so lonely and no one is worrying about you. You've suddenly lost your permanent partner for movies, a pair of ears for your rantings, a bag carrier for your shopping trips, a driver for your outings, a pair of strong arms for hugs and a pair of lovely lips to kiss. These are all the drawbacks.
But the ultimate SINGLE vs ATTACHED statement is this:
Single: No one to tell me that I do not "need" another pair of new stilettos.
Attached: I could use his credit card and pay for the stilettos I wanted!
Therefore, I think it's all about striking a balance in life. One can still be individualistic and yet love being in a relationship. Having it both ways just isn’t astrophysics but it needs the understanding of both parties. Just like you wouldn't like the other partner to dislike what you like, then don't dislike what she likes. I know as singles we can party all we want and do all we like but eventually there's more to life than all these. I don't think I will be adopting celibacy because I want to get married by the time I hit 30!
But at this moment, I just feel quite comfortable in having my own space, doing things at my own pace and still be able to put on a bright face!
Unfortunately, Valentine's Day is coming and knowing that you will be bumping into every cuddly sweet lovebirds from high school to those grey-haired couples celebrating their love for the umpteenth time is just so demotivating. But lucky, this year Valentine's Day happened to fall on the first day of Chinese New Year and so it's not that bad afterall. I'll drown in my efforts of collecting ang pows that I won't even notice the lovebirds beside me kissing and the blue box that she is receiving!