Thursday, September 03, 2009

What if...

...someone offered you a life you've never imagined and all he asked is you to be his girlfriend?

*Pictures are solely for illustration purposes.

Well, there seemed to be nothing complicated about the question. Even a 5 year old would be able to read that but what's there to say no? IMHO, there are a few ways looking at it. It's not as easy as a no or yes answer.

Options:

1) If you like/love him, what's there not to be happy about? It's a life that you've never imagined! You already like him, and now he likes you and want you to be his girlfriend, that's great! Considering he is filthy rich, he will buy you anything you want and perhaps a bouquet of flowers everyday till you guys hit your 1st year anniversary! Sounds so romantic, no?


Or even the whole gold shop!


2) If option (1) goes so well, so what's the problem? The other factor that I would really consider is definitely the status. Is he married? If not, option (1) works beautifully but what if he's married? Would you want to be the 3rd party? I would strongly advice one not to do so if you don't want to have a lady knocking on your door one day and splash acid on your face. Then, no matter how much money you have, you'll never been able to enjoy it! You can have a fling or two but definitely not on a long term relationship with a married man.

3) The age gap. How old would your boyfriend be? For example, I'm 25 years old and what would be the acceptable ceiling age of my boyfriend? Some would say 30+ or even at 40's but seriously, why is age a barrier? I'll look at it this way - I am perfectly fine to date a man in his 50's but I will think it over a thousand times if I were to marry him and then start a family. The only problem is probably the acceptance by the family! Think of the future... many years ahead and you'll feel lonely if he were to pass away way before you. Of course, those who chose a man much older than them usually have no problems with cash flow. So how about someone even older than your parents?


What if he is my boyfriend?


4) Would you say yes because you're tempted with the good life and money? If you're motivated by money, surely the relationship wouldn't last and it wouldn't be love. You can be happy with the monetary gifts and material wealth but is that really happiness? I can definitely tell you that money isn't everything but without money, there isn't anything! So it's up to you how you want to balance your life I guess.... But if you would to ask me, his financial status is a very important criteria for me to choose a boyfriend. After all, I want someone whom earns better than me and smarter than me! If not, how to buy me expensive wine and dine?

5) But what if you already have a boyfriend?!! Haha... would you leave him for another man? Under what circumstances would you leave your existing bf for a new bf? I don't think I really have an answer for this.


In conclusion, I would say yes to the question if 1) I do like him (not for his money only) emotionally & physically and 2) that he loves me and is into a long term relationship rather than being a player. Youth is very short-lived. Enjoy it while you still can. Unlike men, women tend to depreciate in value as they get older whereas men enjoy all the value appreciation like fine wine. So, choose wisely and I would think an older man maketh a good partner. So what if the problem is in the Option (3) & (5) at the same time? How would you solve this? What would be your final verdict?

Tempting offer, tough decision.

31 comments:

suanie said...

if u like him, go ahead and try it out. then blog about it and let us know :D

Lish said...

Eiling, still too young to choose a man...:P

Anonymous said...

about a rich old man who is already married, then take his money and instead you also fool around with a young person like he does to you.

Anonymous said...

Can your current bf gives you the life like him? If can't, please give the older guy a chance. From your life style, doubt your current can last long.

Anonymous said...

Everything tempting needs sacrifices.
But what about the existing boyfriend? He'll sure suffer !
Later if things with the rich old man didn't work out, and really got splash with acid, how ?
Sure gets `YESSS!!!SHE DESERVES IT '

annant said...

age and moolah is da two main criteria im looking for in my future man..

along with slight muscular build *blush*

i don't daddy and mami can take da fact that my man is older than them..and if im dating an ol' man, what should my friends call him? by name or uncle? :S

suituapui said...

So many questions... Age is just a number, money talks...

Anonymous said...

If you really like that older man & have that feeling towards him, just go ahead since he likes you too. Who knows he might be your future hubby? Never try never knows ...
Between, can your current bf gives and satisfies you the life that you want? If no, then better don't waste time anymore ... life is short!!
If yes .. think wise and think twice!! =)

Wei Mei said...

go for money... hehehe... got alot alot of bags........shoes...........alot alot more la... cant think off too.. hahaha

-eiling- said...

Wah why so many anonymous commenters one?!! And why do you guys think I'm talking about myself?

Suanie: Haha... That's one of the ways... lol

Lish: I'm not talking about myself.

Anon: Haha... I wouldn't take a married man as my bf.

Anon: Exactly what my friends told me.

Anon: That's a very good advice. Thank you.

Annant: I think your friends should be able to understand and should call him by the name instead. Maybe parents wouldn't be able to take it.

STP: wow... you're so straight to the point!

Anon: Very well said. My sentiments exactly.

Wei Mei: Life is not all about shoes and bags ok?!! Love leh?

Jasmin Saw said...

'what if...' what a sad word. well, in my opinion, one day if you find someone that you really really love, all those questions won't be questions anymore as a girl/women will be able and willing to face anything just to be with someone she loves. that's the common behaviour of a woman.

Anonymous said...

Going with the older man is a forgone conclusion. Mr Y, L or X?

Since you tend to hide the most/more important person from the blog.

Anonymous said...

If marrying an old rich man, I suggest to have one who is close or over 80. He will mati very soon, and you will get half of his wealth, and will soon be able to start a new life that you really wanted. I believe that money solves most of the problems in life.

Philip said...

I do believe many unmarried but educated and working ladies in the age range of 25-40 would prefer older men as bf/lover. Money is not everything.

zewt said...

why the sudden curiosity in this situation? being posed with one? ;)

so, your ceiling age is 50s eh?

plenty around in this country haha!

Anonymous said...

Eiling, you are one of those who is blessed with good looks and sex appeal, and many suitors will come. From there will arise its own set of headaches due to the diversity of suitors. If I could split the suitors into 3 age groups, these are the typical dilemmas you will have to deal with.

Men 25-35 - Not matured enough, nor as wise as those older men that you are meeting. They haven't seen enough of the world yet. Also unlikely to be as rich as the older ones and if he is, he would likely be a spoilt brat using Daddy's money.

Men 35-45 - More matured than those younger and likely at the peak of their career. Tend to be more aggressive in nature. If not married, quite possible playboy who just wants to get into your pants. If married, then dilemma whether to "follow him" or not. If follow him, whether to slowly push for divorce or just be a good girl by the side.

Men 45-55 - Wiser and more mellow than those 35-45. Likely married or divorced. If married, same dilemma as previous paragraph. If divorced, why? Is there any hidden problem with the guy that you haven't unearthed yet? Also, the age gap will cause narrow-minded tongue wagging ("She looks like his daughter", "She must be after him for his money" etc). Will you be able to take it?

There are of course many many exceptions to these "sweeping statements", but they were just meant to be typical scenarios if you know what I mean. At the end of the day, it will be what you want from your life and no one can tell you otherwise. Peace.

KY said...

i think no.5 is slightly tricky. lol

Myhorng said...

u know my answer right? :)

-eiling- said...

Wow... there are really many anonymous today!


Jasmin: Yeah I think so too. It must be love and I know you're very in love with him! hehe...

Anon: What makes you think I am going out with one and it's one of them?

Anon: yes, money solves a lot of problems but I don't think I'll marry just for the sake of money!

Philip: Yes you're right in both statements. It's all about whom you're comfortable with!

Zewt: Why are you so smart? I'm actually ok with people over 50's cos I tend to mix very well with them (is it a sign of getting old?)! Lol..


Anon: Thank you for your kind words of advice. That's how I would look at it too. Honestly, I don't have many guy friends whom are around my age cos I tend to meet people much older than me and I find them easier to accept me than the younger ones. Probably it's due to maturity and the things I enjoy. However, in the end, age is just a number. I will be more convinced if it was love rather than money.

KY: Yes...very indeed.

Horng: Haha... yes I know. I have "smart" friends!

Anonymous said...

Find older man with a heart problem; you can hantam him in bed and he will mati soon with a Stroke! All will be yours.

Huai Bin said...

Damm hard decision...I would say yes with your set of conditions too.

-eiling- said...

Anon: I wonder whether u're a woman or a man saying this?!! I wouldn't do that. haha

Huai Bin: Even you find it difficult to answer? Lol...

Anonymous said...

Eiling, I'm the same long story Anonymous :-) Just one more piece of advice to you. I have seen many many pretty ladies who preferred not to settle down when they were younger, as they were then at their "prime" and there were so many suitors. "Why settle down?!? Enjoy life mah". Almost all of them lived to regret that decision. By the time they passed their 30s, their reputation had spread already, and many buayas will come for them. When they really wanted to look for love to settle down, it couldn't be found at all. Those surrounding them will be all the buayas. I know SO many very pretty ladies, now into their late 30s and some even into their 40s who are single, and no longer by choice (it WAS by choice when they were younger). Every human being needs love, and when one can't find it (many failed relationships), one tends to get more desperate and everything spirals downwards. You're still young now (pook pook choi :-)) but don't take things for granted. It won't always be this way. Choose wisely. Btw, in case you're wondering, I'm not someone you know. Just someone who follows your blog and many other food blogs.

Towkay said...

nice one, i do enjoy coming here for the daily dose of brutal honesty courtesy of the l1ngst3r. tough to say, it depends on the person i suppose. i don't know that i can contribute that much to this conversation. but i'll be first to admit, that i still dream about the one that got away daily. when you meet someone who moves you that is the time to act, even if it turns out to be a mistake later. you may never get a second chance, even if you become rich and famous. no regrets.

Towkay said...

update: ok l1n6st3r nevermind what i said, i just googled the girl i was talking about (all nervous and shaking like a little schoolboy). damn, time has not been kind to her. i am WAY out of her league now... haha. you're right find a good one fast! quick! yesterday! gonna have nightmares about that one now...don't know if i should even friend her for old times sake.

-eiling- said...

Anon: Thanks. Am flattered that you follow my blog. I understand what you're trying to say and I am perfectly agreeable to that. I am not choosy nor I plan to wait for the best suitor. Timing is everything but considering I am just 25, I think i have a few more years to go.

Towkay: It's all about timing and grabbing the opportunity. Lightning does not strike the same place twice (although I beg to differ). Haha..

Anonymous said...

What will your new bf buy you in the first year? A new car, a condo, some investment like property to collect rental, exotic holidays, countless numbers of shoes, watches, jewelry and bags? :)

Please keep us posted. Enjoy!

firefly said...

Besides money and appearance, find someone who loves you more than you love him.

-eiling- said...

Anon: I do not have a new bf! So no posting on that. haha

Firefly: I'm sure the other party would like the same too! Then how?

Towkay said...

found you a theme song:

http://rapidshare.com/files/276011235/3lingtheme.zip.html

-eiling- said...

Towkay: Haha...

"I'm adaptable
And I like my role
I'm getting better and better
And I have a new goal
I'm changing my ways
Where money applies
This is not a love song"

Not really my song.... but the music is nice. Thanks.

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